How things change as we become parents

It's 10:35am. As I sit down for the first time today, freshly showered, towel on head with a bar of chocolate to my side, I realise something ... how much alone time do I actually get now?

Before you have children, you'll always be told at how babies/children take up your every waking minute (heck, your every non-waking minute). However, somehow you don't really believe its that intense.

The rumors are true.

Let me enlighten you...

I pee with the door open. why? because, if I close the door the handle will be going in seconds. The sweet, sweet sound of 'muuuuuum!' will start to echo the hall even though you have clearly stated that you're going to the toilet and will be back.

It's just so much easier to leave the door open and let the kids walk in and out as they please.

Asking you why you sit down to pee when they stand, why you use toilet roll not just for number 2's and the ever comical question of .... is that a special nappy for mummies?

When I finally get that 1 hour of free time (cough naptime cough) I have the biggest decision of my life to make.

What do I do with my freedom?

Nap?

Eat?

Clean?

Shower?

Play the Ukulele?

Netflix?

Blog?

Evidently, I chose to blog on this occasion.

People always tell me that I shouldn't take these moments for granted, that I should look out for me, take time out to re-gather myself.

They're right but it's not always that simple.

I find myself thinking about this decision for far longer than I should and 9 times out of 10, I chose to do something around the house (clean, iron, sort the washing, prepare dinner for later).

But why? why don't I take time for me. Being a mum is more than taking care of the kids, it's taking care of everything around you.

If I'm behind on the chores then I'm behind on the dinner, if I'm behind on dinner then I'm behind on bedtime.

If I'm behind on bedtime, then there is no time for loving my children.

That is the most important point of all. I have to have time for the children so either everything needs doing at a certain point or it goes on a backburner and piles up until it's unmanageable.

Don't get me wrong, I have my incredibly unmotivated days where I do jack all around the house but most of the time I do push myself to the limits.

I always ask myself why, because after a days worth of cleaning and organizing it never looks any better when you've got 2 boys and a husband to pick up after.

It's true what they say ... houses filled with boys ... stink!

So I guess my point is that it doesn't matter how you do it. Your way of parenting is the right way for you and your family.

Whether you send your kids to school or you homeschool them, whether you work or you're a stay at home parents, whether you spend you days cleaning and your evenings soaking up the love from your children or you allow the house to be a clutter zone so that you don't a miss a moment.

It doesn't matter. It works for you. It works for you children ... you're doing it right.

You're a good parent. I'm a good parent.

Continue to love your children and allow them to love you as often as they want to.

With love,

The Anxious Mother

(Mental Health. Lifestyle. Parenting)

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